I wrote the obituary this morning and then met with the funeral director to finalize the plans for James's service. The obituary will run in Sunday's paper in Richmond, Charlottesville, and Appomattox.
A graveside service is planned for Thursday, December 2nd at 11:30am. I have a car coming to the house to transport my family, Uncle Roger, Aunt Glenda, and the minister to Appomattox. If anyone is considering making the trip, you are welcome to travel to Appomattox with us. I hope to have some sort of reception at my house afterwards but have not gotten any further in my plans than the desire to do this.
I also spent a few hours with Etta this evening. I set her hair and did her nails which really helped to lift her spirits. She is doing as well as can be expected, perhaps even better. She is no longer being sedated at all and is talking a lot about James and her feelings of grief. When I arrived this afternoon, I could tell she had just been crying but a little bit of love goes a long way and she seemed much better as the visit went on.
Together we packed the clothes that I had brought over the past 4 months for James. She told me who she would like to have the clothes and I will certainly honor her request.
I have tortured myself about whether to bring Etta to the cemetery or not...have consulted her doctor and others involved in her care. Though everyone seems to discourage bringing her (via medical transport and with a nurse), I can't seem to find peace with this decision. I know I can make it happen, I just don't know that I should. Her physician said he would help me make the arrangements but that it may prove to not be the best idea (if she got sick, I would have to leave and return with her; the trip could be too hard on her, etc). I've decided to let it go for now and hopefully as time goes on, the decision as to what to do will be clearer to me.
A graveside service is planned for Thursday, December 2nd at 11:30am. I have a car coming to the house to transport my family, Uncle Roger, Aunt Glenda, and the minister to Appomattox. If anyone is considering making the trip, you are welcome to travel to Appomattox with us. I hope to have some sort of reception at my house afterwards but have not gotten any further in my plans than the desire to do this.
I also spent a few hours with Etta this evening. I set her hair and did her nails which really helped to lift her spirits. She is doing as well as can be expected, perhaps even better. She is no longer being sedated at all and is talking a lot about James and her feelings of grief. When I arrived this afternoon, I could tell she had just been crying but a little bit of love goes a long way and she seemed much better as the visit went on.
Together we packed the clothes that I had brought over the past 4 months for James. She told me who she would like to have the clothes and I will certainly honor her request.
I have tortured myself about whether to bring Etta to the cemetery or not...have consulted her doctor and others involved in her care. Though everyone seems to discourage bringing her (via medical transport and with a nurse), I can't seem to find peace with this decision. I know I can make it happen, I just don't know that I should. Her physician said he would help me make the arrangements but that it may prove to not be the best idea (if she got sick, I would have to leave and return with her; the trip could be too hard on her, etc). I've decided to let it go for now and hopefully as time goes on, the decision as to what to do will be clearer to me.